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Announcing our 2025 conference
celebrating 25 years of AEDP™


In It Together: The Science and Practice of Healing through Connection

In-Person in New York City OR Live Online
3 days: Friday – Sunday, April 4 – 6, 2025

In less than a year, the AEDP community from around the world will gather in New York City for three days of learning, laughing, and becoming inspired, TOGETHER at last!

The 2025 Conference, In It Together, will be held both online and in-person at the legendary Webster Hall in downtown Manhattan where invited speakers from within and beyond the AEDP community will grace the same stage that world famous musicians and speakers have performed on for more than 140 years.

We don’t have all the details yet. In fact we’ll be asking for your help designing it to make it a meaningful, memorable and fun long weekend in New York City with AEDP colleagues and friends. But we do know that in-person seats are limited to 600, and early registration pricing for members is limited even more. 
Already want to register? Even before the roster of speakers is announced? Your payment or deposit + payment plan will guarantee that 1 of the 600 seats at Webster Hall is reserved for YOU.

I hope you are as excited as we are!!

Molly Eldridge
Chair of the AEDP Conference Committee 


We are undoing aloneness on Instagram and facebook!

The image above is one of the more popular recent posts on our recently launched Instagram page where we ask our followers, “What does undoing aloneness look and sound like for you?”

AEDP Institute has officially dipped its toe in the social media maelstrom! We’d love to have you follow us at #aedpinstitute where you can expect to find interesting and inspirational AEDP-syntonic quotes, bits of AEDP wisdom, occasional Institute announcements, community news and more – we’re just getting started, so we appreciate every follower and LIKE. Thanks for the support and we’ll see you out there!


Newly Certified Supervisors

Congratulations to Dana Baerger| Posted by Jerry Lamagna LCSW, AEDP Senior Faculty and Ron Frederick, PhD, AEDP Senior Faculty | Posted June 27

Ron Fredrick and I are pleased to share with you that Dana Baerger of Chicago, Illinois, USA, is now certified as an AEDP supervisor.

It’s been a pleasure for us both to supervise her. In particular, we’ve been impressed and inspired by how she brings her unique integration of AEDP metapsychology, intuitive understanding of phenomenology and expertise in deliberate practice to her supervisory work. Her wisdom, curiosity, thoroughness, humanity, intellect and authenticity shine through in all that she does. Ron and I have no doubt that Dana will continue to have a hugely positive impact on her supervisees, their clients and our AEDP community as a whole.

From Dana:
I have deeply valued the process of learning to become an AEDP supervisor. For me, one of the most meaningful aspects of the model is the way in which it encourages clinicians to make use of their whole self. It was a moving and unexpected experience to be able to bring my ‘former’ deliberate practice self along for this AEDP journey. I want to express my exuberant and heartfelt gratitude to my supervisors, Jerry Lamagna and Ron Frederick, who have encouraged me to make a clinical home in AEDP. They were the ones who encouraged me to utilize my time in the deliberate practice world in the service of growing as an AEDP supervisor. My on-going work with them, which comprises my own deliberate practice routine, continues to enrich me both professionally and personally

One reviewer wrote:
“Excellent paper by Dana Baerger as far as I am concerned. Sounds like she is a fantastic supervisor, has a real grasp of AEDP, and is a real asset to the Institute. I give her a big thumbs up and happy to have her!”

The other shared:
“Thank you for the opportunity to review Dana Baerger’s AEDP Supervisor Certification paper. Unambiguously, she passes! I hope Dana’s paper finds its way to publication. Many AEDP practitioners and trainees could benefit from reading and discussing this deeply reflective and very well-written paper. I feel it is a valuable contribution to our field.”

We congratulate Dr. Dana Baerger on her becoming a certified AEDP Supervisor and look forward to the contributions she will bring to the AEDP community in the years to come.

Newly Certified Therapists

Congratulations to Gitit jacobson-ziv|Posted by Kate Halliday and Idit Ronen-Setter, July 12

Dear AEDP community,
With much enthusiasm, we would like to welcome Gitit Jacobson-Ziv as a Certified AEDP clinician. Gitit has worked with the both of us, (with Idit as primary supervisor, and with Kate as the certification supervisor), and we share our delight of Gitit, as an AEDP therapist and a colleague.
Gitit is a clinical psychologist, working in several settings in Israel, offering treatment in a clinical practice and in a welfare unit of inpatient adolescents. Her extensive knowledge was evident from the beginning. Nevertheless, Gitit is modestly curious and open to take in theoretical and pragmatic aspects. In our work, she has thoroughly prepared for each session, each – as a new door to learning experiences. Alongside with her thorough preparations and seriousness, Gitit’s instinctive responses to her patients’ needs are so effective, and in-line with the model. Her heart is open to make room for her patients, with kindness and good intentions, creating a sense of a safe haven for them.
In her fashion of work, Gitit combines a warm being with a protective presence, inviting and speaking to their inner child-like parts, with stamina. This combination is due to Gitit’s lively energy, belief in self-healing, as well as her deep theoretical understanding of the connection between present-hurt and past attachment wounds, manifested in her expert use of relational interventions, restructuring and meta processing interventions, her pace and tendency to include bodily experiences– as a fully AEDP-immersed therapist and person.

Kate, as her certification supervisor, shares:
As I sat in the company of Gitit and her clients, as she shared her work with me during our meeting times, I was warmed and gladdened by her presence. It was immediately obvious that the connection she builds with the people she treats goes deep —- and as her early session elegantly demonstrated, she gets there rapidly with a mixture of quiet confidence and tenderness.
The Israeli community, and the world AEDP community, are very lucky to count Gitit among us.

Gitit’s reviewers shared their appreciation of her handed work and joined our enthusiasm: “Gitit demonstrates remarkable strengths in her therapeutic practice, showcasing a sophisticated use of herself within the therapeutic process…”; “…One of Gitit’s standout skills is her playful engagement with clients, which enhances the therapeutic relationship. Her moment-to-moment tracking is exceptional, while maintaining a tight focus that continually brings clients back to pivotal emotions…”; “…Gitit expertly navigated the delicate balance between attending to the client’s grief, pain, and sadness while persistently bringing up the client’s anger… Gitit’s decision to “seed” the space for future work on this emotion was insightful and strategic”.
“… demonstrates an entire session of multi-spiral intra-relational processing, state work, deepening affective change and inter-relational resonance, all within a beautifully directed Portrayal process by Gitit with her advanced AEDP skills… Gitit is gifted and proficient in her practice of AEDP”;

Here are Gitit’s words, describing her AEDP journey:

From the first moment I encountered AEDP, I felt like I had returned home, even though the beginning wasn’t easy. Everyone practicing AEDP knew how to perform magic. Initially, the work seemed devoid of magic to me—curious on the one hand but challenging on the other, introducing me to complexities I struggled to unravel, demanding a “quantum leap” in my thinking. Over time, as I delved deeper into learning and received supervision, what initially seemed magical transformed into a clear, illuminating, fascinating, deeply emotional, and highly effective way of working.

Previously, I pursued an unconscious-to-unconscious connection with my clients through the object relations theory. While learning AEDP, I found the freedom and resilience to be in contact with my core self in an endless movement that searches with the patient for his core self within a positive spiral and close and safe contact with himself. Damasio’s phrase “we are organized to be better than fine”, and Diana’s daisies resonated in my therapy room and personal life, influencing how I practice therapy and supervise. Even before I met AEDP, my position was authentic, active, and direct. AEDP expanded and deepened this position in a mutual dance, mine and the patient’s dance, attentive to the entire experience. Feel the emotional strengths hidden behind the infinity of defenses and anxieties in a gentle but determined, moment-by-moment tracking of the experience, its changes, and the hidden and visible communication.

The experience of togetherness, clear to me within the therapeutic space, was unraveled and rewoven through the deep understanding of the meaning of undoing aloneness and creating a brave and genuine emotional partnership. As the AEDP became gradually an integral part of myself, I felt like a membrane that could absorb and bring in softly, sharply, and confidently the unspoken, untouched, and hidden part of the self. Today, I move freely between my aedp skills and dynamic analytic aspects like transference and countertransference, so past and present are repositioned within a deeply sensory, multidimensional, content-rich, and powerful experiential framework within the therapy work.

My learning journey with AEDP, culminating in certification, was challenging and demanded effort and dedication. The microanalysis, moment by moment, the framing of the process into tiny components, and understanding my interventions and their immediate impact on the therapeutic process were significant, fascinating, and sometimes surprising. It strengthened my ability to feel and understand in real time what was happening clinically.

I want to express deep gratitude to the dear women who have accompanied and continue to accompany me. The wonderful Idit Setter and her support and encouragement, knowing so gently and precisely how to tune into me as a supervisor and dear friend. Her vast knowledge, deep wisdom, and ability to play, enjoy together, and navigate between shores of security and new worlds made the effort involved in the certification process an enjoyable and exciting experience. Kate Halliday was an ocean of rich knowledge for me, and despite thousands of miles between us, I felt so close to her—gathered, safe, relaxed, and embraced. Sigal Bahat taught me a new chapter about listening to the body, my physical presence, and the ability to move within the physical and emotional fabric of experience and experiential work. All these have made a tremendous change in my life, creating an additional sensory system following the training and joint work with her. Neta Ofer was there for me as a passionate teacher and supervisor with rich knowledge and sharp, wise sensitivity at the beginning of the journey. Nurit Korakin, whose supervision was full of magical and fascinating moments. Special thanks to my dear friend Jenny Cina, who was there at every moment, giving wholeheartedly.
Another significant part of my journey has been participating in various courses as a participant or assistant, where participants I met left a mark on me, found a warm and loving place in my heart, and became part of the unique and magical treasure of AEDP, which is mine.

Please join us in celebrating Gitit’s achievement! You can email Gitit at: gititjk@gmail.com
With much joy, Kate Halliday & Idit Setter


For all 2024 AEDP Institute-sponsored events please click here

Still time to register!!!! SEMINAR: Working with Complex and Sexual Trauma: An AEDP Overview to Support and Enhance Interventions
Presented by Judy Silvan, LCSW
Starting July 19, 2024 
Learn more and register
ADVANCED SKILLS COURSE: From No Self to Core Self: The Process 
For Essential Skills Grads
Presented by Annika Medbo, MA
Starting July 19, 2024
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ADVANCED SKILLS SEMINAR: From No SELF to Core Self: The Process
For Essential Skills Grads
Presented by Annika Medbo, MA
Starting July 19, 2024
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For all 2024 AEDP Institute-sponsored events please click here


In-Person Events Taught by AEDP Faculty and Supervisors

HOT Topics in AEDP™ presented by Diana Fosha, PhD, Kari Gleiser, PhD, & Ben Medley, LCSW, with Molly Eldridge, LICSW

July 29-August 2, 2024
Presented by the Cape Cod Institute
Live In-Person or Live-Online
Learn More and Register


Explore AEDP-Informed Psilocybin Assisted Therapy – Experientially! presented by Emily Bilbao, LCSW, Deb Lee-Thornby, LMFT, & Liz Perkins, LMFT

September 13 – 15, 2024
Presented at Immersive Therapies in Portland, Oregon
Live In-Person
Learn More and Register


Supervision Online

Now It’s Easier than Ever to Find a Supervisor!

Simply send an email to findasupervisor@aedpinstitute.org, sharing details about the supervisor or type of supervision you seek. Your request will reach all actively supervising Faculty members, Certified Supervisors, and Supervisors in Training. Those meeting your outlined criteria and with availability will directly respond to you. Feel free to correspond with multiple prospective supervisors until you find the right match! Additionally, here’s a list of groups to assist you in your search. This list is updated monthly and is not exhaustive, so for an effective search, please follow the instructions and email the address provided above.

Attention Supervisors: List Your Offerings Here!


These trainings are not Institute-sponsored and do not count towards AEDP certification.

Healing and Easing Depression with live client video demonstrating AEDP
|Posted by Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW | July 12

Healing and Easing Depression with live client video demonstrating AEDP

Please enjoy this on-demand webinar on easing and healing depression with live session video.

ON-DEMAND 3- HOUR WEBINAR
Healing and Easing Depression: Using the Change Triangle® Tool and the Transformational Power of Core Emotions:
https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/webinar-healing-depression

Participants will:
• Learn the Change Triangle tool, a practical map for understanding how emotions work in the mind and body to help build a deeper connection with our authentic self and to connect more deeply with others.
• Learn an effective holistic science-based tool to decrease anxiety and depression.
• Learn a basic education in emotions and a new way to understand trauma and transformation.
• Learn a new way to conceptualize clients in couples and individual sessions.
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Learning Objectives:
• Describe and explain the Change Triangle psychoeducational tool so clients/patients understand why they have symptoms and understand the path to healing and recovery.
• Identify core and inhibitory emotions and the defenses that block them to set the stage for change and transformation and specifically to ameliorate symptoms of depression and anxiety.
• Apply techniques to create relational safety for moment-to-moment work to identify and process suppressed/repressed core emotions/affect.
• Apply techniques to process buried anger and rage.
• Apply techniques to build confidence from the body up.

Agenda:
• 1st hour: Introduction to working with emotions using the Change Triangle, a map to regulate the mind and body and integrate the brain for enhanced emotional health
• 2nd hour: The therapeutic stance and clinical techniques to work with emotions in the mind and body
• 3rd hour: Case discussions and clinical videos treating depression

By the end of this training, attendees will be better able to:
• Describe and explain the Change Triangle psychoeducational tool so clients/patients understand why they have symptoms and understand the path to healing and recovery.
• Identify core and inhibitory emotions and the defenses that block them to set the stage for change and transformation and specifically to ameliorate symptoms of depression and anxiety.
• Apply techniques to create relational safety for moment-to-moment work to identify and process suppressed/repressed core emotions/affect.
• Apply techniques to process buried anger and rage.
• Apply techniques to build confidence from the body up.

This On-Demand Webinar is 3 hours long. Registrants will be given unlimited access to the recording for a full year.

Register here: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/webinar-healing-depression

Warmly,
Hilary

AEDP-informed class on emotions and the Change Triangle|Posted by Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW | July 12

For therapists, clients or families of clients who want to understand and deepen their experience of their own emotions. Join us on September 4 through October 23rd for this gentle and transformational eight week psycho educational and experiential course on emotions using the triangle as a guide. This class is LIVE and interactive on Zoom. A great experience! Learn more here:
https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/8-week-emotion-education-101

For a weekend version of this same class, visit here:
https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/weekend-emotions-education-101

Questions? Email me at hilaryjacobshendel@gmail.com or Heather Sanford, LCSW at Sanford.he@gmail.com. CEs available.

June 9 presentation with Matt Fried MA, Ph.D., MFA | Advanced Clinical Education | June 6

Combining Imaginal and Relational Skill Sets in Psychotherapy!

Learn more here- https://ace-foundation.net/ace-program/338/


Miscellaneous Posts

Looking for an experiential and didactic (left brain & right brain learning) curriculum to teach emotions AEDP-style?| Posted by Hilary Jacobs Hendel July 12

Check out the Emotions Education 101 Turnkey Curriculum:
https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/change-triangle-curriculum

Early-bird pricing until August 31st! Join us for the next Train the Trainer Workshop which includes the Emotions Education 101 Turnkey Curriculum with the tuition. CEs available. Visit the workshop webpage here:
https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/ee101-train-the-trainer-course

Questions? Reach out to Hilary Jacobs Hendel at hilaryjacobshendel@gmail.com or Heather Sanford, LCSW at sanford.he@gmail.com.

AEDP/ketamine/ couples - anyone doing this?? | Posted by Mark Green July 12

Dear All,
A lovely social worker David Avruch is looking for someone to interview for a research study. Can you help? Here’s his email to me:

Currently, I am conducting research through the University of Maryland, whose IRB has just approved my protocol entitled Four Approaches to Ketamine-Assisted Couples Therapy. In this project, I am seeking to juxtapose how four different styles of couples therapy – AEDP, EFT, IFS and Imago – each approach the use of ketamine in the work of couples therapy. As you probably know, there is very little published scholarly data on psychedelic-assisted couples therapy, so I am hoping to make a small contribution to the field by gathering and disseminating some of the wisdom that’s been accumulated by practitioners across these four styles of psychotherapy.

Right now I am in the beginning phase of the research, just starting to recruit respondents. Because I’m not well-connected in the world of AEDP, I wanted to ask if you know anyone who might make a good interviewee for this study. My inclusion criteria are:

– Advanced level of training/certification in AEDP
– Additional training in ketamine-assisted therapy
– Currently using ketamine with couples
– Has offered training to other therapists in the use of ketamine + AEDP for couples

It may be the case that I will need to relax these criteria if I can’t find enough folks who fit. But this is where I’m starting. Do you have any leads, or individuals you could refer me to, who may know others?

Mark

Professional Zoom Account | Posted by Patricia A. Geller July 12

I Have an open spot in my professional Zoom account

patriciageller@comcast.net

Job Opportunity: Hiring Clinic Director for our student clinic site, the Center for Somatic Psychotherapy | Jean Paul Eberle Jul7 12

Hi Benevolent and Abundantly Skillful AEDP Community,

As an opening to my first post… yay… I first would like to say how grateful I am to be a part of this rich, dynamic, and vibrant community this past year.

I want to take a moment to spread the word regarding a job opportunity related to experiences close to my heart, a graduate student/therapist-in-training’s first practicum experience. As program chair and core faculty of the somatic psychology department at the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) in San Francisco, California, we are currently searching for a Clinic Director for our student clinic site, the Center for Somatic Psychotherapy.

Supporting foundational and fundamental somatic and relational skills for our next generation of somatic students as they emerge into the larger field is so important, especially in the context of social justice and liberatory work core to CIIS, all that I believe the AEDP community so clearly embodies a sensitivity towards.

If you feel any interest, please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.
jeberle@ciis.edu
jeanpaul@bodypsychologytoday.com

Below is the link to the position:

https://ciis.interviewexchange.com/jobofferdetails.jsp?JOBID=177767

Sending only good wishes to this wonderful community… 🙏

Job Opportunity: Hiring LMSW for psychotherapist position in a warm, collegial, AEDP-informed group practice in NYC| Posted by Avi Klein May 30

Downtown Somatic Therapy is a private group psychotherapy practice with locations in Manhattan and Brooklyn. Rooted in deep awe and appreciation for human resilience in the face of pain and suffering, we offer a range of therapeutic modalities that emphasize embodiment, emotional awareness and attunement. Heavily informed by AEDP, we also offer and encourage learning in modalities such as EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing and Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples, among others.

We welcome and strongly encourage candidates of diverse backgrounds to apply.

We are a supportive and collegial group that enjoys spending time together both professionally and outside of the office. We are currently searching for an LMSW (or equivalent degree) for a full time psychotherapist position (a caseload of ~25 clients) to work with individuals and couples online and in person. An interest in group work is welcome but not required.

Responsibilities include:
Conducting intake sessions

Weekly psychotherapy sessions

Completing notes and assessments

Attending weekly individual & group supervision

A small amount of marketing work to help increase client inquiries.

This position will be supervised by one of our senior clinicians.

The ideal candidate already has a demonstrated interest in trauma-focused and somatically oriented psychotherapy, ideally through their own training, field placement, reading and personal work. Most importantly, they should take an active role in their learning and growth as a therapist and be able to strike a balance between asking for help when needed and demonstrate a willingness to try new or unfamiliar things in order to stretch and grow as a clinician. They also possess the ability to recognize and support their colleagues in their growth and learning.

A basic comfort with technology is essential, since we rely heavily on videotaping for clinical supervision and web-based tools for documentation, billing and scheduling.

This is a fee for service position with compensation rising to 60-70k annually for new clinicians, with annual raises in compensation. We also offer a 401K with employer matching, paid time off and reimbursement toward health insurance.

All interested applicants should kindly send a note with your resume email to avi@aviklein.com with the subject line “Job posting”

Audio/video transcription services to therapists working on certification materials|Posted by Eleanor Rogers | ongoing post

Transcriptions North
I am pleased to offer audio/video transcription services to therapists working on certification materials, or preparing for presentations, supervision, or other training. I bring attentive eyes and ears to your work in order to accurately capture the content of your sessions. Completed transcripts include time stamps, verbatim dialogue, and tracking of non-verbals. 
Files can be sent via a secure platform that offers USA, and EU / UK GDPR data privacy compliance, and in particular meets Canadian federal and provincial data privacy compliance – PIPEDA, PIPA, FIPPA, ATIPPA, PHIPA. Files may also be mailed as DVDs or USB drives. 
Located in British Columbia, Canada, I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Canadian Certified Counsellor with AEDP training. For information on fees, file formats, and procedures, please email me at eleanor@creativecurrents.ca. References available on request.

True Other Transcription | posted by Karen Batka, MBA, MA, LMFT | ongoing post

ANNO: True Other Transcription Services
Dear All,

It is my pleasure to offer you a unique and specialized audio/video transcription service – True Other Transcription – used by many therapists
in preparing micro-analysis for certification/training/skill enhancement and manuscript purposes. Your work comes alive as I efficiently and accurately witness, capture and track moment-to-moment verbal AND non-verbal transformational processes within sessions enabling left-brain access of material you (and your clients) might otherwise miss.

Videos of your work with individuals, couples or group trainings can be conveniently and confidentially uploaded into a secure, HIPAA compliant Inbox or mailed to me as a DVD or thumb drive. Soon after, you receive the completed transcript (including time codes and true verbatim) as an email attachment – either in grid format (with space to add your process and intervention notes) or script format (preferred for manuscript work).

Since 2012, I have transcribed over 1,000 hours of AEDP clinical videos and welcome the opportunity to save you precious time and increase value by bringing your work to life. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California and North Carolina and AEDP Institute member with AEDP training. Please contact me (Karen Batka) by phone (415.488.5565 EST) or email (Karen@karenbatka.com) for additional information regarding fees, supported file formats or references.

Warmly,
Karen

Karen Batka, MBA, MA, LMFT
415.488.5565 EST
True Other Transcription
undoing aloneness through accompaniment…word-for-word


“AEDP 2.0” is a Bestseller!

Did you know that the book, “Undoing Aloneness and the Transformation of Suffering Into Flourishing: AEDP 2.0″ made the APA (American Psychology Association) bestsellers list for 2023?

Congratulations to Diana – who wrote several chapters in the book and is the book’s editor, and congratulations to all 13 AEDP Institute Sr. Faculty and Faculty Emerita who collaborated to make this the incredible book it is. Here’s the list of authors, chapter by chapter:

Diana Fosha, Karen Kranz, Gil Tunnell & Jenna Osiason, Yuko Hanakawa, Benjamin Lipton, Karen Pando-Mars, Ron Frederick, Ben Medley, Eileen Russell, SueAnne Piliero, Jerry Lamagna, Kari Gleiser, and Danny Yeung


Poetry, Art, Music, Culture, History and Story Telling by AEDP Members


The Gift of Synchronicity By Marc Cecil

The Gift of Synchronicity By Marc Cecil

Who am I to sit with someone who is hurting after a lifetime of trauma and help them find a way to heal? Will I be able to join them in putting together the pieces of a puzzle where I might represent a piece that has been missing, or that makes it hard for the puzzle to come together?

So many difficult questions. But somehow, I find the courage to keep moving forward. Many clients tell me that they feel seen in a way they have not felt before, while others have a harder time. Either way, I am grateful that they are giving me the gift of knowing them, but I am even more delighted when they give this gift to themselves.

For example, with my client, Rosie, we discuss how she is treating her adult daughter like a child. I gently ask her, “What is the hardest part about letting your daughter grow up?” She looks perplexed, perhaps a little angry, even sad. And, after holding her gaze for what seems like a lifetime, she wipes her tears, and says, “I guess that means I’m an adult now and need to have my own life.” I respond, “I’m so glad you can see that. That’s a hard one for many of us to learn.”

It’s great when the water is flowing steadily in the right direction, but sometimes it feels like nothing is happening, or the water is so rough that we are even moving backwards. I try to remember that that’s just the way life is, and that healing works in a similar manner. And then, one day, a new door begins to open, often unexpectedly, making it possible to see the light inside more clearly.

Contemplating the meaning of this work, I take a long run along the lake near my home in Vermont on a chilly Sunday afternoon in late November. Out of nowhere, I see a man standing alone dressed up as Santa Claus, playing a beautiful classical melody on his violin in a way I have never heard before, but seems very natural for him.

Staying on course to get my best time, I don’t slow down to enjoy the music, only realizing now that like this special Santa, I also need to be myself as a therapist, not trying so hard to do what is always expected, but rather, making space for the unexpected in my work and life.

Now, if feeling discouraged and stuck when working with Rosie or other clients, we slow down and just turn the picture a little, looking at it from a different angle. After a pause, sometimes, sprinkling in a few heartfelt words, while encouraging them to find their own, they begin to notice the light inside, revealing their specialness in a way we have only seen glimpses of before.

This work shows me that being a psychotherapist is not just about learning a specific set of skills and techniques. Instead, I like to think about what we do as an art, where we are on this journey together and are creating a picture of our humanness as both a client and therapist. I often tell my clients, “They are rewriting a story which helped them survive but is keeping them stuck in the past, making it difficult to see who they are now and the person they are becoming.”

At the same time, I am keenly aware of how a parallel process is happening inside of me. In a dream, a wise person tells me, “Many have not always appreciated themselves or been valued for the blessing of being able to see things beyond their years.” I reply, “Boy, that hits the nail on the head. But it has taken me a while to grow up, and, I don’t have that many more years left.” I feel their kind voice saying, “Don’t worry, we are not a unitary self. It’s what’s happening in synchronicity that tells us whether we are heading in the right direction.”

In the spirit of the holiday season, and the special therapy approaches woven into our hearts, I encourage you to slow down and make some space for your own questions and reflections. When we take the time to experience what that’s like, we can imagine the whole world lighting up and changing for many of us at the same time.

I still don’t know the answers to my original questions, and many more are arising, but I rest easier knowing that I can trust myself and the process of healing, and it will take me wherever I need to go.

I look forward to crossing paths with you along the way, even if we never actually meet. But if we do, I have no doubt it will be special, and new doors will open in our lives, as well as with so many others we touch with our hearts.

I call this the gift of synchronicity, which I believe can, and is, becoming a reality. You may not see it coming, but, when it arrives, soak in the love and joy, knowing that it is just a part of your client or you that has come back home.

Much joy and hope this holiday season, and into the new year and beyond.

Marc A. Cecil, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and Certified AEDP Supervisor and Therapist, in addition to being a certified EMDR consultant and CSRT supervisor in training. Marc lives nearby the sacred shores of Lake Bomoseen, and his office is in Rutland, Vermont. He invites you to join him in noticing your own moments of synchronicity, as you become the therapist and person you were always meant to be. Marc welcomes your comments and feedback at mcecilvt@aol.com.

©️Copyright 2023 Marc A. Cecil, Ph.D. All rights reserved.

The Rainbow connection By Marc Cecil

The Rainbow Connection By Marc Cecil

I tear up when I think about my patient, Joy. She came to see me after being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer, feeling overwhelmed and struggling to keep herself above water, let alone finding the drive to keep moving forward.

I quickly discovered that Joy was a bright light to many in her life, a devoted mother, wife, and friend, who wanted nothing more than to live long enough to be with her children one more day. That was the glimmer of her core self that helped her remember why she was alive and why we were doing this work together.

I grabbed onto this light and never let it go, letting her know that I saw who she was at her core, and that it was far more powerful than the illness that was trying to hijack her. Although she tried every possible treatment, Joy decided that she wasn’t going to “fight cancer,” as she knew that this would put her at war with her body rather than working with it. She would often share her frustrations about the corporate fund raisers only wanting to focus on the more curable cancers, as they believed no one wanted to give money to a lost cause.

Nevertheless, I could see in her eyes and hear in her voice that the transformation was happening. We would then metaprocess what it was like to know that she didn’t need to fit into that mold and had her own voice that was much stronger. Joy realized that she was all about “living with cancer,” and, I mean living!

Continuing the spiral of transformation, Joy knew her truth even more and celebrated that she was no longer alone in the world, like she felt as a child, and so many other times over the years. In the process, she discovered that she could take back her power to be herself and speak out for others, even though she never knew when the medicine would stop working.

Joy was expected to only live for 2 years but she made it five. None of her doctors could explain it, but we both knew that having cancer was not a death sentence. In fact, it actually helped her find a reason for living and to face some of the immense loss and trauma she tried to bury inside.

With all of our courage, each enhancing the other’s, we focused our work on some of the many things that contributed to her cancer, not just the medical, but the psychological, which consumed her body and sense of self. And, in time, Joy began to give herself permission to feel, truly knowing her humanness and value. She found her beautiful core self, and with it, more of a reason to live.

The last time we met, only a few days before she passed, I sensed that we both knew that we were saying goodbye and would not see each other again. Usually not at a loss for words, I didn’t quite know how to express what she meant to me. But, knowing what it would mean to her to disclose my feelings, I played her a song I thought would touch her heart with what was also in mine.

It’s been 5 years now since Joy left us, and I just heard that song again when scrolling through social media. The lovely young woman in front of me was wearing a cap covering her head, and the glow on her face reminded me of Joy, who loved to sing and had a beautiful voice.

In that moment, I remembered that before Joy passed away, she told me that she would find a way to let me know that she was okay. I’m sure you’ll recognize this tune first made popular by a famous frog, starting with the double-barreled question, “Why are there so many songs about rainbows – what’s on the other side?”

When I listen to this song now, I feel Joy’s beautiful spirit telling us all to believe in ourselves and to have hope during the darkest times. These words have given me much solace during recent days, and, in thinking about other times during my life, the darkness encompassing so many people around the world, including many in this community.

If you knew Joy, you would also know that she embodied the spirit of AEDP, and that her great soul lives on in my heart, as well as in many others. I’m sure she would appreciate you sharing this message, like I am doing now. It is my way of telling her and others how grateful I am that she was in my life and how much her truth means to all of us.

Most of all, I encourage you to welcome the joy, sitting hand-in-hand with the loss and grief, not covering it up, but making space for it, enabling the meaning that got implanted to help you survive, to realign. Be patient and drink in the light, letting it join with the glorious core self of who you have always been and deserve to be.

In the end, we may not know the answers to all of life’s mysteries, but, perhaps, we don’t need to, as long as we have touched the core of ourselves and others in our heart. That’s the power of transformation and healing we all have inside of us.

I would love to hear about what that’s like for you. Then, we could bask in the joy on the other side of the rainbow. That’s “the rainbow connection – the lovers, the dreamers, and me.”

Marc A. Cecil, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and Certified AEDP Supervisor and Therapist, in addition to being a certified EMDR consultant and CSRT supervisor in training. Marc lives nearby the sacred shores of Lake Bomoseen, and his office is in Rutland, Vermont. You can email Marc at mcecilvt@aol.com to let him know how his words settle inside, and where they take you. He would love it if you join him in sharing your own heartfelt creativity that arises inside of you and your patients, spreading the “spirit of AEDP” throughout this community and into the world around us.

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